Taking sides...
Most of the guys I know who are in a relationship follow this protocol. Whenever there is an issue to be solved or a misunderstanding of sorts between their better half and someone else….they choose to side with their better half by default. I guess it’s a noble gesture to prove your loyalty but I personally think it sucks.
When it comes to my close friends, I’ve realized that I seldom side with them. I prefer to give the other individual the benefit of doubt. So basically what it means is that I choose to side with the third party by default. It’s only after much deliberation and consideration that I change sides and team up with a close friend. It’s pretty weird and I can’t explain it. I guess I’m not the classiest guy to rely on….coz trust me…I WILL let you down…hehehe.
I guess this could explain why I have a few friends who’re always cross with me. I don’t blame them….coz I’d hate it if they did the same to me….but somehow I’ve always felt that that my friends are MINE…and hence I can take the liberty of…or let me put it this way…take them for granted…in the sense that they’ll forgive me for my flaws….naaahh …didn’t come out right….not hold a grudge against me….coz although they’re really mad right now, eventually they’ll see that I wasn’t exactly wrong…or better still…I was always right …hehehe …talk about high hopes :)
I’m trying to explain something that’s not exactly easy to explain…I shall try again…I believe that that if it makes the other person happy by wining some flimsy argument…go ahead and make that person happy. You know you were right all the time and yet you chose to recede to the other person’s whims and fancy, in my eyes makes you a bigger person. I mean it’s easy for you to bite someone’s head off but if you could step back and let someone else bask in the glory of wining a minor issue…go ahead and do it.
And that’s what I expect my close friends to do…to have the have the heart to let go…coz life is too short to fight over such insignificant things.
So basically this is how it works in Pratap-LaLa-Land….I’m nice and considerate and partial to the other party by default…and treat my dear ones awfully by default…..and it’s only when I realize beyond doubt, that my loved ones were right, only then would I side with them. Yes I’ll make the worst boyfriend/fiancé/husband ever….but some people still think otherwise :)
When it comes to my close friends, I’ve realized that I seldom side with them. I prefer to give the other individual the benefit of doubt. So basically what it means is that I choose to side with the third party by default. It’s only after much deliberation and consideration that I change sides and team up with a close friend. It’s pretty weird and I can’t explain it. I guess I’m not the classiest guy to rely on….coz trust me…I WILL let you down…hehehe.
I guess this could explain why I have a few friends who’re always cross with me. I don’t blame them….coz I’d hate it if they did the same to me….but somehow I’ve always felt that that my friends are MINE…and hence I can take the liberty of…or let me put it this way…take them for granted…in the sense that they’ll forgive me for my flaws….naaahh …didn’t come out right….not hold a grudge against me….coz although they’re really mad right now, eventually they’ll see that I wasn’t exactly wrong…or better still…I was always right …hehehe …talk about high hopes :)
I’m trying to explain something that’s not exactly easy to explain…I shall try again…I believe that that if it makes the other person happy by wining some flimsy argument…go ahead and make that person happy. You know you were right all the time and yet you chose to recede to the other person’s whims and fancy, in my eyes makes you a bigger person. I mean it’s easy for you to bite someone’s head off but if you could step back and let someone else bask in the glory of wining a minor issue…go ahead and do it.
And that’s what I expect my close friends to do…to have the have the heart to let go…coz life is too short to fight over such insignificant things.
So basically this is how it works in Pratap-LaLa-Land….I’m nice and considerate and partial to the other party by default…and treat my dear ones awfully by default…..and it’s only when I realize beyond doubt, that my loved ones were right, only then would I side with them. Yes I’ll make the worst boyfriend/fiancé/husband ever….but some people still think otherwise :)